One of the common friction points I see while working with college sports teams, high school level athletes and even in myself daily is finding the energy to “do it all” as you’re pulled in a million directions. As an athlete, especially in college you’re going from one thing to next. From class, to practice, to individuals, to the weight room, to completing course work or studying for exams, and oh wait, don’t forget in the “off-season” putting in the extra effort to maintain team camaraderie. There’s always something that demands your attention and effort.

This requires a level of dedication, consistency and discipline that often leaves most of us feeling as if we’re falling short. Feeling like we’re not quite doing enough in just about any of the categories. Or, if you’re crushing it in one, the others are sure to slip. I’m not going to sugar coat it… It doesn’t get easier. If you want to be great at anything in life, this is just what it takes. For example, I take my roles as mother and wife very seriously, but I’m also working a full-time job as a Marine Officer while simultaneously working extra hours just to get my business and what I’m passionate about off the ground. When I’m home with my husband and son, I feel like I should be doing something to be working towards my professional goals. When I’m side hustling, I feel the guilt of not spending enough quality time with my family. When I prioritize both of those things, my workouts take a back seat.

But at the end of the day, that guilt isn’t making me a better mom, wife, coach or Marine. And neither is feeling sorry for myself because all the beautiful privileges I have feel like they’re starting to stack up against me. So, what do I do better today compared to when I’d feel overwhelmed back in college as an athlete? I reframe my situation faster. I catch myself before I burn myself into the ground trying to “do it all” all at the same time. I revisit my goals and who I want to be, so I can move forward in a way that will bring me closer to that and focus on ONE thing at a time.

Do I catch myself every time I start feeling overwhelmed? No. I’m human, but the good days out stack the bad and that’s what counts. Being consistent doesn’t mean you’re perfect and give 100% every day, in every facet of life. Being a consistent leader means if you only have 75% in the tank, you give that entire 75%, because that’s what your teammates AND you deserve. These are the opportunities that help you figure out who we are and what we’re made of.

Keep your head up, your goals and priorities clear, and take it day by day. If it were easy, everyone would do it. If you’ve made it this far, I know you are more than able. It’s up to you to practice digging deep and figure out how capable you really are.